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Post by adam on Sept 23, 2006 13:06:16 GMT -5
Taling to friends and socialising and good ways to take your mind of bad things and to appreciate life more. if you think things are out of reach ask people for help and guidence, freinds family etc. will, I am sure, be happy to assist. I'd really rather keep these things private from my family...I don't really want to tell them about all of this. It may help to talk to someone, but I don't want it to be any of my family members. A close firend then. Find someone to help at least.
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Post by {88Keys} on Sept 23, 2006 23:16:52 GMT -5
YOU DON'T KNOW THAT.
Seriously, you're considering giving up your life (the only one you get) so that you can meet famous people and do amazing things, even though you don't know that that is what the afterlife is really like? What if there is no afterlife? You'd be giving up your one shot at life for nothing. Or what if there is an afterlife, but that's not at all like you think it will be? What if the famous people you want to meet aren't there? Or what if you die and are reincarnated as a cockroach or something? You're giving up an awful lot for a huge, huge uncertainty.
Believe it or not, you can control what you think. You don't have to let bad thoughts overwhelm you. Make an effort to put them out of your mind and focus on something that makes you happy. Also, be active! Go for a walk, go exercise, take a dance class- just keep moving. It really will help you feel better. And like everyone else has said, I think you need to talk to a counselor, or a family member (don't be afraid to let them know how you feel- I'm sure they love you and want to help you).
Keep in mind too that you've been going through a lot of changes lately (didn't you just start at a new school?) and that may be part of your melancholy. It was always hard for me when school ended. Just because things seem bad now doesn't mean they will be that way in six months or a year. I know that seems like a long time away but it really isn't. I remember when I was about 15 or 16, I went through a time where I felt like I had nothing to look forward to. I didn't want to die, but I was depressed and apathetic about everything. Now my life is so much better...I look back and realize everything I would have missed out on if I gave up right then.
Not necessarily. I definately believe in an afterlife, but I'm not in any hurry to die either. You can still enjoy your life on earth, even if you think there is something better later.
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Post by Mac on Sept 24, 2006 5:04:20 GMT -5
Adam you idiot. Friends are her problem.
Gideon, now that you're in uni is the time to capitalize on it. Systems are in place to help lonely freshman find friends. Who are you living with? Who do you have a class with? Are you in any clubs? Advising groups? Anything at all. Everyone is new. Talk to someone. It may actually help to admit that you're shy, as embarassing as it is. They may soften up for you if they realize you're not used to meeting new people. Now is the best time.
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Post by adam on Sept 24, 2006 8:51:11 GMT -5
Adam you idiot. Friends are her problem. Gideon, now that you're in uni is the time to capitalize on it. Systems are in place to help lonely freshman find friends. Who are you living with? Who do you have a class with? Are you in any clubs? Advising groups? Anything at all. Everyone is new. Talk to someone. It may actually help to admit that you're shy, as embarassing as it is. They may soften up for you if they realize you're not used to meeting new people. Now is the best time. Yes, what he said.
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Post by Islander on Sept 24, 2006 9:07:08 GMT -5
I think this'll be part of the problem - Gideon is living at home, and commuting daily.
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Post by Jesi on Sept 24, 2006 10:03:34 GMT -5
I live at home as well, started uni this year, I'm extremely shy (I know it's hard to believe ) and still managed to make some awesome new friends. Everyone's new and friendless just introduce yourself, there are a lot of shy people as well try breaking the ice, there are plenty of new people you are bound to find someone you like. I'm really happy where I am now, I introduced myself to one girl and we became really good friends she's also very shy, the group got bigger afterwards. But my two closest friends are that girl to whom I introduced myself and another girl who introduced me the girl to who I introduced myself (is someone got that wins a cookie )
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Post by Gideon on Sept 25, 2006 13:31:50 GMT -5
I've got some kind of a plan underway, although I'm not sure whether it'll work out as of yet...I'm thinking about contacting someone and asking them if I can meet with them socially sometime. Mind you, at this stage, I'm only thinking about it. To be honest, I'm really quite scared to do it. I keep thinking that it won't work out, or that they won't want to be friends with me. Yes, yes, I'm a coward. This fear is really hard to shake off.
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Post by Menack on Sept 25, 2006 15:04:36 GMT -5
Good then, just go for it. Worst case scenario, they just say no, and you won't regret not giving it a try. And even this is improbable, they'll most probably say yes. So go for it!
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Post by Mac on Sept 26, 2006 3:29:42 GMT -5
Meet over a meal, its always a good excuse.
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Post by Gouki on Sept 26, 2006 3:41:54 GMT -5
Gideon: If you are looking forward to death, get help. Seriously. Right now. Nobody should look forward to death unless they are so terminally ill they wish to be euthanised.
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Post by Gideon on Sept 26, 2006 14:03:23 GMT -5
I imagine, though, that it would be quite hard for me to talk to a professional about this without any of my family finding out eventually, and I'd rather they didn't know.
It's easier for me to say these things on the Internet, but I think it would be harder for me to actually talk to someone face to face about them.
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Post by Jesi on Sept 26, 2006 14:15:14 GMT -5
I know the feeling Gideon, I wouldn't be able to talk to a professional about my personal stuff either, I don't know how most of my friends do it, I'm not comfortable with the idea of a stranger knowing about most of my stuff.
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Post by {88Keys} on Sept 26, 2006 21:10:23 GMT -5
Does your university have a counselor on staff that you can go to? I know when I was in college, we had a free clinic for the students. If your school has anything like that, they might have a counselor or physchologist as well. It wouldn't cost anything and your family wouldn't find out about it either.
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Post by lazerxangel on Sept 26, 2006 22:05:04 GMT -5
Well, if it helps, imagine whoever you're mad at in the chair:
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Post by Mac on Sept 27, 2006 2:57:50 GMT -5
Alot of schools have free counceling. Look for it.
As for talking to a professional, I'd find it helpful. A stranger couldnt let things leak back to your friends and family, and isnt going to judge you based on the opinions of others. Your family might know the bare basics of why you're there, but they dont have to know details.
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